Dancing in the Rain
Leading with Compassion, Vitality, and Mindfulness in Education
Jerome T. Murphy, Foreword by Christopher Germer
cloth, 288 Pages
Pub. Date: October 2016
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paper, 288 Pages
Pub. Date: October 2016
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Dancing in the Rain offers a lively and accessible guide aimed at helping education leaders thrive under pressure by developing the inner strengths of mindfulness and self-compassion, expressing emotions wisely, and maintaining a clear focus on the values that matter most. Jerome T. Murphy, a scholar and former dean who has written and taught about the inner life of education leaders, argues that the main barrier to thriving as leaders is not the outside pressures we face, but how we respond to them inside our minds and hearts.
In this concise volume, Murphy draws on a combination of Eastern contemplative traditions and Western psychology, as well as his own experience and research in the field of education leadership. He presents a series of exercises and activities to help educators take discomfort more in stride, savor the joys and satisfactions of leadership work, and thrive as effective leaders guided by heartfelt values.
Every day, education leaders find themselves swamped in a maelstrom of pressures that add to the complex challenges of educating all students to a high level. With humor and compassion, Dancing in the Rain shows educators how to lead lives of consequence and purpose in the face of life’s inescapable downpours.
Dancing in the Rain compellingly makes the case for being fully present, leaning in, and living one’s values. This book is such a gift for educational leaders.
— Ari Betof, head of school, Boston University Academy, and lecturer, University of Pennsylvania Graduate School of Education
Informed by rich experience and wise discernment, this practical and inspiring book leads educators to seamlessly combine their outer lives of service with the inner life of contemplation. Murphy has brilliantly translated contemplative principles and practices into the language of education and leadership.
— Mirabai Bush, senior fellow, Center for Contemplative Mind in Society, and author, Contemplative Practices in Higher Education: Powerful Methods to Transform Teaching and Learning
For years, I struggled with the demands of being a principal while caring for my mother with Alzheimer’s. On the outside, I appeared all together, while the real me struggled in silence. No one ever told me to care for myself—until this life-changing book. I’m no Beyoncé, but I’m learning to dance in the rain.
— Karen Marie Byron-Johnson, principal, Whitney M. Young Leadership Academy, Cleveland, Ohio
The superintendent has one of the most difficult jobs in America. Jerry Murphy provides practical and thoughtful advice on how to effectively address the critical challenges school district leaders face on an everyday basis.
— Daniel A. Domenech, executive director, AASA, The School Superintendents Association
Murphy has written a book of wisdom, insight, and immense helpfulness, which promotes personal and social compassion. A wonderful guide for effective, supportive, and creative leadership in educational contexts.
— Paul Gilbert, author, The Compassionate Mind: A New Approach to Life’s Challenges
In Dancing in the Rain, Jerry Murphy has written a thoroughly engaging, lucid, and pragmatic book exploring the benefits of mindfulness and compassion in our professional and everyday lives. It is an inspiring testament to how our inner work can inform our engagement with others.
— Joseph Goldstein, author, Mindfulness: A Practical Guide to Awakening
Grounded in solid science, this profound book gets right to the heart of important inner resources for any educator. With a warm, encouraging, and very readable style, Murphy shows how to live and work with inner strength and inner peace, with good humor and grace.
— Rick Hanson, author, Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence
In this practical and wise book, a trustworthy ally makes accessible what is essential. Dancing in the Rain serves as an expert field guide to transformational leadership from the inside out, developing sustainable inner capacities that help us lead in turbulent times with the power of presence, perspective, and purpose.
— Tobin Hart, professor of psychology, and author, The Four Virtues: Presence, Heart, Wisdom, Creation and The Integrative Mind: Transformative Education for a World on Fire
This kind book takes the core of what we are learning in the science of acceptance, self-compassion, mindfulness, and values and gently puts it in the hands of the reader, one key feature at a time. There is a way that things work—personally and in our leadership roles. The core of it has been known in our wisdom traditions for eons, but in the modern world we need it to be simplified, tested, and made relevant and accessible. This book does exactly that. Highly recommended.
— Steven C. Hayes, codeveloper of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and author, Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
Dean Jerome Murphy provides an invaluable, lyrical, and extremely practical guide for all who seek to lead with wisdom. He even shows hard-charging people how to enjoy the fruits of their labor! Dancing in the Rain is a fabulous, richly useful book.
— Ronald Heifetz, founding director, Center for Public Leadership, and King Hussein bin Talal Senior Lecturer in Public Leadership, Harvard Kennedy School
Dancing in the Rain takes a fresh look at leadership and its challenges. Peppered with real-life stories, the book chronicles Murphy’s own transformation as he learned to apply mindfulness and self-compassion to his leadership. His stories will help you align your work with your values, slow down and be present with the ups and downs of your work, take time to nourish yourself and learn to safely express your emotions with authenticity. It is a must-read for anyone in a leadership position.
— Patricia A. Jennings, associate professor, University of Virginia, and author, Mindfulness for Teachers: Simple Skills for Peace and Productivity in the Classroom
A wise distillation of deep insights and practices which, if implemented, will go far to transforming lives and organizations, and thus, the world.
— Jon Kabat-Zinn, author, Coming to Our Senses: Healing Ourselves and the World Through Mindfulness
Practical and wise. Doing the exercises will help you unstress and lead with understanding and heart.
— Jack Kornfield, author, A Path with Heart: A Guide Through the Perils and Promises of Spiritual Life
I wish that the gentle wisdom and guidance that Dancing in the Rain provides had been available to me sooner. I highly recommend this book for leaders who wish to lead in soulful and mindful ways; for leaders who dare to go inward in ways that help inform their outer work in the world. May this help them flourish and thrive.
— Linda Lantieri, cofounder and senior program advisor, Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL)
Rich with anecdotes from his own experience as dean of the Harvard Graduate School of Education, this wise new book on mindful leadership explores the common mental traps of leading educational organizations: our resistances and our tendencies to ruminate and rebuke ourselves. Murphy then offers compassionate guidance, and dozens of exercises, in his own heartfelt voice, about coming back to center and being in the ‘dance.’ A lovely and accessible book for educational leaders.
— Kirsten Olson, coauthor, The Mindful School Leader: Practices to Transform Your Leadership and School
In this compassionate and wise book, Murphy shares years of experience as an educator, manager, and leader. He examines both the internal and external burdens of leadership as well as skillful ways to stay focused and kind to both oneself and others. He writes as if he were talking with the reader over a cup of coffee. But, his ideas are fresh and psychologically sophisticated. This is a must-read book for leaders, administrators, and anyone who has a position of authority and visibility.
— Mary Pipher, author of Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls
Essential reading for education leaders and administrators—a wise, compassionate, open-hearted guide to leading with insight and care. Jerry Murphy offers a sophisticated yet simple and accessible distillation of principles that will benefit others immeasurably.
— Lizabeth Roemer, professor of psychology, University of Massachusetts Boston, and coauthor, Worry Less, Live More: The Mindful Way through Anxiety Workbook
Dancing in the Rain is a welcome contribution to the world of education. Here is a practical set of tools that educational leaders can call on for support and strength in challenging times. The stresses of leadership don’t seem likely to lessen—what good fortune that the skills for handling such stress are becoming more widely available.
— Sharon Salzberg, author, Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness and Real Happiness: The Power of Meditation
Dancing in the Rain is a gift for school leaders. Jerry Murphy’s wisdom, humor, and humility shine through every page, reflecting his own leadership journey. It’s a vital resource, including a toolkit of exercises and practices that support leaders in navigating variable weather patterns while still enjoying the dance.
— Pamela Seigle, executive director, Courage & Renewal Northeast, Wellesley College
For every educator daring to lead in these daunting times, here is an honest, helpful, and hopeful book on how to do it with mind and heart from one who has seen it, taught it, done it—danced it—and lived to tell the tale.
— Diana Chapman Walsh, president emerita, Wellesley College
Exercising leadership in public education is like managing the Boston Red Sox—everyone tells us how to do our job. Murphy sees us as human beings grappling with difficult jobs, and compassionately offers practical insights on how to take care of ourselves while we are busy taking care of everyone else. An absorbing book, a must-read for administrators.
— Jeffrey M. Young, superintendent of schools, Cambridge, MA Public Schools
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